Most private members clubs sell you a room. THE TAFIA sells you nothing of the sort. There is no bar, no waiting list for a table and no annual photograph of the terrace. What there is instead is a small, closed group of people who will pick up the phone for one another — and a discreet place to ask them to.
How it works
You are invited. Every member arrives through an existing member, who puts their own standing behind the invitation. There is no public application form and no way to buy your way in.
The committee reviews. Applications are read by the committee, who weigh what you do, who you can genuinely help and whether you'll give as readily as you take.
You ask. Members post clear asks — an introduction, a recommendation, a name at a company — and the room answers. Nothing is broadcast beyond it.
You gather. Private dinners and gatherings are announced inside the club only, with the venue shared with those attending.
The code
Every member accepts the same short code when they join. It is the whole rulebook, and it is the standard the committee uses when reviewing reports or deciding whether someone should stay at the table.
Give before you take.Look for a way to help someone else before you ask for help yourself. The room works when contribution comes first.
Protect other people's relationships.An introduction is borrowed trust. Never share a contact's details without permission, and always ask before making a connection.
An introduction is a privilege, not an entitlement.Be grateful, be brief, and follow up promptly. The person making the introduction is staking their name on you.
What happens inside THE TAFIA stays inside THE TAFIA.Conversations, names, and member information stay inside the club. Breach that trust and you will be removed.
Don't spam or hard sell members.The room is not a lead list. No cold pitches, no mass emails, no aggressive selling. Members who do it are asked to leave.
Help when you genuinely can.Only offer an introduction or recommendation you can actually make. A hollow offer wastes everyone's time and goodwill.
Respect people's time.Be clear, concise, and specific in your asks. Busy people should know exactly what you need within a sentence or two.
No dickheads.Basic courtesy is non-negotiable. Arrogance, rudeness, or harassment have no place here and will end membership immediately.
Why discretion matters
An introduction is somebody else's relationship being lent to you. That only works if members trust the room not to repeat what it hears, not to sell to one another, and not to spend a good name carelessly. The member list is never public, conversations stay inside the club, and anyone who treats the room as a lead list is asked to leave.
Joining
Membership is by invitation only and approval is never automatic. If you're holding an invitation, start below. If you're not, the honest answer is that the only route in is through someone already at the table.